Mother’s Day will likely always be a bit strange for me. Last year I was diagnosed on May 8th. It was the Friday before Mother’s Day. I spent a lot of that weekend wondering if I’d be here this year for it. What a ride it has been and we are still on it. I look at all I have done, dealt with, people I’ve met, places I’ve been… and all the things I want to do still. I rejoice for those who have even small victories against this and any cancer, and I mourn with those who get diagnosed, deal with side effects, get bad news, deal with treatments not working and who love people we have lost to this. I have cried more in the last year than I think I have in the rest of my life combined.
Don’t get me wrong, I have laughed, I have laughed until I cried. I have met amazing, strong, fabulous people, dealt with caring wonderful medical people and even ran into my very own nurse from hell (I ended up bleeding all over me, the sheet and the floor and she had to clean it up. Listen to me next time you witch!). I never knew cancer ‘conferences’ even existed, I now believe there are conferences for EVERYTHING, you just have to find the right one.
I have also learned a lot. Not just about the things I never wanted to know, but about myself, about my children and how they handle things, about my husband, mother, father, sister, brother, stepmother, cousins, aunts and uncles. I have learned about my friends too. I’ve learned that people I thought didn’t even know who I was actually care about me. I’ve learned that people who I thought cared about me maybe don’t, or not as much as I thought they did. I’ve learned that people who were just ‘friends’ are so much more amazing than I ever knew and I know that there are a lot of people that I will never be able to repay for all they have done for me, from praying to cleaning to cooking to taking care of my kids.
Some of the things have been good, some have been eye opening, some have made me sad.
I’m grateful for a lot of the people I’ve met and some of the experiences I’ve had (chemo and surgery are not among those although I’m glad they worked). I’m grateful I’m still here but I’d be lying if I said I was grateful for this disease. I’m not. I don’t want it. I don’t want anyone else to have it. I don’t want a lot of the things that have come along with it but I’ll settle for kicking the daylights out of it and raising my children and seeing a cure.